Thursday, 20 August 2015

Sky News....

Ok I don't say much but.......

Good old Ashley Madison - I guess this story will run and run!

Friday, 24 July 2015

Turning tide......

Maybe the tide is finally turning.  The comments on my previous few Daily Mail articles have been shocking, truly shocking, upsetting and offensive, all based on looks and nothing to do with my lifestyle or opinion.  The comments on this article finally prove the tide could well be turning :)

Daily Mail 

Sunday, 15 February 2015

Is the mistress every man's 50 Shades fantasy?

The fabulous Rod Liddle interviewed me this week and it was filmed for the Sunday Times website.

I think you can see it here Rod Liddle Times Interview

And the whole article is below.  An interesting take on affairs!

Here’s a Valentine’s Day special report, just for you. The dating website Illicit Encounters recently commissioned an opinion poll in order to publicise its crepuscular activities. The company was set up to cater specifically for married people who wish to cheat on their partners and undermine the institution of marriage.
It does terribly good business, among the distrait and disaffected middle-aged. According to the poll, one in three married people wishes to God that they hadn’t tied the knot. Go on, have a look among your friends and see if you can spot them. Her with that slight look of desperation in her eyes, the front of the black Hobbs dress a little lower than is really decent, him with the scary rictus smile and the jackhammer in his briefcase.
The survey also asked respondents if they would be unfaithful for a sum of money — and if so, what that sum of money might be.
Almost all the middle-aged people said yes, yes, too right, bring it on. But there was a gender split on the amount of cash: the women said that they would do the dirty on their partners if paid £250,000. The men said they would do the same thing for about a thousand quid. That probably tells you more about the way in which men and women think about sex than any number of longitudinal scientific surveys, or lengthy and appallingly written theses informing you that gender is nothing more than a social construct of an oppressive patriarchal state.
A thousand quid versus a quarter of a million. It has the ring of truth about it, no? There was a time when I would have been unfaithful for a bag of McVitie’s Mini Cheddars, especially those new Branston Pickle-flavoured ones. Or even half a bag. But be assured those days are long gone (my love).
The most revealing stuff, however, was not the male/female split, but the vastly different attitudes between age groups. The younger generation, the people under 30, were far less prepared to cheat on their spouses. Or get up to weird stuff in the bedroom, come to that. Overall, we were revealed to be quite prudish people — almost half of those surveyed had not considered making love with the lights on, for example. My eyesight is so bad that I need the lights on all the time, so I can be sure about what I’m doing. Turn the lights off and I’d probably find myself doing press-ups on the bedroom floor for 2½ minutes.
But I digress.
The point is that the younger the respondent, the more prudish — or fundamentally decent, you make up your own mind. And by way of illustration, the overwhelming majority of Illicit Encounters’ members are — how can I put this — of a certain age. The young, by and large, want no truck with any of it.
Now you might argue that young people feel less of a need to do really pervy business with masking tape and staple guns and are less inclined to cheat on their partners because the whole gamut of sexual experience is so wonderfully new to them, it simply isn’t needed. Maybe.
But it ties in with several recent social surveys, which suggest that the young do not drink alcohol anywhere near as much as their parents do, and that they are beginning to eschew drugs, and believe that studying for their exams is really important. In other words, they are living what we might call decent and responsible lives.
This is sometimes presented in the media as evidence that the young generation are boring and conservative, but I suspect that this is because we have become accustomed to equating youth with wildness and reckless abandon.
For a whole bunch of reasons it would seem that the young have reverted to how they were before 1950; before the pill, before rock’n’roll, before drugs became ubiquitous; before the championing of anti-authority values. My generation — the baby-boomers — were the anomaly, and an embarrassing anomaly at that.

Wednesday, 11 February 2015

This Morning.......

What a fabulous day I had yesterday.  The This Morning team were kind, welcoming and great fun to be around - as always.  It is worth the ridiculously early start to get there, and thankfully I managed a long lie in this morning after my gorgeous date last night, so I'm rested and ready to face the day.  

If you missed it and want to catch my interview with Phil, Christine and Denise, check it out here.

This Morning interview

Thank you again to everyone involved.

And to the haters - when you learn to spell or listen to a whole interview then maybe your opinions will matter to me :)

Tuesday, 13 January 2015


Sorry folks, it's been a while.  I've been so busy with my 'day job' and the men in my life, I feel I have neglected the blog and my followers - sorry :(
Here's a cute pic of a baby anteater to make you smile and hopefully forgive me.

There will be much more following soon.  Lots to announce, lots to tell, lots to laugh about.

Watch this space :)

Thursday, 9 October 2014

Mistress with a capital M

A mistress, or dominatrix, is used to describe the dominant female in a BDSM or sexual pair that includes a male submissive.  There are many forms of dominant/submissive relationships and the acts performed can range from gentle to severe. The main factors are that the female is dominant and the acts are agreed upon by both parties.

The Role of the Mistress in BDSM Situations
In dominant/submissive relationships with a mistress, the female is the dominant person in the situation. She dominates the submissive male with acts that deliver a combination of pain and pleasure. Men seeking a submissive role are not always submissive in daily life. It is common for men with high powered careers to enjoy relinquishing control and taking on the submissive role in the bedroom.
Although submissive and dominant play is sometimes used by people in committed relationships, some men with a penchant for being dominated prefer to be in the hands of a professional. A professional mistress or dominatrix provides specialized services and a level of control that enables the submissive male to relax and release complete control to her.

Explore Your Deepest Desires
Whether with a partner or through the services of a professional mistress, dominant/submissive activity allows you to explore your deepest desires and fantasies. This may include bondage, domination, spanking, and a range of BDSM and fetish activities. The specific scenario is based on the desires of the individual, but the female is leading and dominating the submissive male.
Sometimes the play between a mistress and submissive can get rough, so it is important to set rules and take safety precautions to prevent injury. The activity and rules should be agreed upon in advance. Because it can be easy to get carried away, it is advisable to have a safety word that can be used by the submissive partner, if things are getting a bit too rough.

Services from Professional Mistresses
The specific services offered by professional mistresses vary, but it is relatively easy to find a provider offering the services you are seeking. Many professionals list their services through online directories, such as those found at All activity is consensual and sex is not part of any paid service offered by a professional dominatrix. Any such activity that may occur is consensual and outside of the services.

Tuesday, 7 October 2014

Wrong or right Mistress?

It seems most people following me on Twitter assume I'm a 'Mistress' with a capital M and a whip in hand.  I have to say, I've dabbled a little in the past, but that is not really what the serial mistress is all about.  Yes its about being open and adventurous sexually, but it certainly doesn't mean I'm standing on a set of balls in my stilettos or pushing knitting needles into parts while a man cleans my windows in a maids outfit.

However, I'm always one to please the masses - if they want to read these things - so I'll be posting some very interesting articles over the next few weeks about BDSM and 'Mistresses'.  I hope these are fascinating, and I hope you enjoy them, if not, simply comment and let me know, but any posts about sex are interesting - aren't they? :)

Thursday, 8 May 2014

Can you help???

Fascinating project in the pipeline.  Unfortunately I'm not right for it - in fact I'm probably exactly what it DOESN'T need - I'm the cause of jealousy! :)

Anyway, I'm not sure if any of my readers would be interested in either taking part, or know someone who would be happy talking about their extreme jealousy, and what they are doing about it.  

The details are below:-

We are working on a project for Channel 4 about morbid jealousy and the effect it has on couples. We would like to speak to people in the UK involved in relationships that are blighted by this condition, which is sometimes called the Othello Syndrome. Perhaps this is triggered by an affair and the couple are trying to rebuild trust - but finding it hard - or a mental illness; paranoia, insecurity, psychosis. We are looking for people who're constantly checking mobile phones, emails and social media for clues of infidelity or another 'issue'. Perhaps people use lie detectors or other technology in a desperate bid to restore trust. They recognise this is a problem and want to do something about it, to move forward.
We would like to find out the effect this is having on relationships and would like to talk to both partners to find out how each is affected by the jealousy. 
The company making the film is the highly respected factual programme maker Screenhouse, based in Leeds. We make high quality, sensitive, non-sensational films. For further information and examples of work please go to

I am keen to reach out to as many people as possible to her their experiences of this and wonder if you can help in anyway. Do you know anyone who might be prepared to speak to us? Please get in touch for a no obligation, confidential chat.

Feel free to comment (privately) or contact me, and I will of course pass on your details to the company involved.  Your details, comments or stories will be treated in the strictest confidence. 

Thanks folks 

Tuesday, 6 May 2014

Can it help?

Interview with Andrew Peach on BBC Berkshire with me and Mike Taylor - can it ever help a relationship?

BBC Berkshire with Andrew Peach

Tuesday, 29 April 2014

Celibacy - could you???

I had a fabulous chat with the wonderful Adrian Goldberg on BBC WM yesterday discussing celibacy and could we live without sex.  The ex wife of Chris Tarrant, Ingrid, talked openly about sex, or her choice not to have sex, since her split with her husband seven years ago.  I have to admit, she sounded more like a single woman with a desire to find the right man rather than a celibate woman, but hey, we've all been single and gone without for a while - I'm not sure that makes us celibate.

Anyway, the whole interview is available here for the next six days.  Catch a listen and see what you think.  Could you live without sex?

BBC WM Ingrid Tarrant and Adrian Goldberg

Friday, 18 April 2014

TFM and Metro Radio interview

Hope you all enjoy it :)

Friday, 10 May 2013


Very interesting interview with Lorraine and Aled on the Daybreak sofa, with Marilyn Stowe, divorce lawyer.  Of course she only sees the fall out, because the relationships repaired don't end up in front of a solicitor.  What a shame she wouldn't listen to the teeny tiny possibility that an affair could help!!

Thursday, 10 January 2013

Busy week.....

The new year has started with a very busy week.

Monday saw me heading down to London to do Daybreak at stupid o'clock in the morning!  Pretty good fun but gutted I didn't get to meet Louie Spence! :)

You can still catch the interview here - for the next few days - if you can tolerate a few adverts.  I'm on at 1hr 28m through the show.  Feel free to let me know what you think :)

Happy New Year....

Happy New Year to all my followers - and sorry it has been so quiet on here.  Volunteers to slap my bum will be appreciated :)

My new years resolution is to write more on here, so fingers crossed it will be more than links and more than waffle!! :)

Have a fabulous 2013 everyone xxxxx

Tuesday, 6 November 2012

Inside Out...

The link to the BBC Inside Out programme aired last night.  And I only had a couple of nasty messages, things are obviously improving lol

Monday, 22 October 2012

Last chance to listen to the interview I did about on Radio Tees.  A very interesting debate about the destructive nature of the site, and how affairs don't have to blow your world apart.