Friday, 18 April 2014

TFM and Metro Radio interview

Hope you all enjoy it :)

Friday, 10 May 2013


Very interesting interview with Lorraine and Aled on the Daybreak sofa, with Marilyn Stowe, divorce lawyer.  Of course she only sees the fall out, because the relationships repaired don't end up in front of a solicitor.  What a shame she wouldn't listen to the teeny tiny possibility that an affair could help!!

Thursday, 10 January 2013

Busy week.....

The new year has started with a very busy week.

Monday saw me heading down to London to do Daybreak at stupid o'clock in the morning!  Pretty good fun but gutted I didn't get to meet Louie Spence! :)

You can still catch the interview here - for the next few days - if you can tolerate a few adverts.  I'm on at 1hr 28m through the show.  Feel free to let me know what you think :)

Happy New Year....

Happy New Year to all my followers - and sorry it has been so quiet on here.  Volunteers to slap my bum will be appreciated :)

My new years resolution is to write more on here, so fingers crossed it will be more than links and more than waffle!! :)

Have a fabulous 2013 everyone xxxxx

Tuesday, 6 November 2012

Inside Out...

The link to the BBC Inside Out programme aired last night.  And I only had a couple of nasty messages, things are obviously improving lol

Monday, 22 October 2012

Last chance to listen to the interview I did about on Radio Tees.  A very interesting debate about the destructive nature of the site, and how affairs don't have to blow your world apart.

Saturday, 22 September 2012


Here is a link to the article I did for the Daily Express yesterday.

What do you think is the perfect amount?  Is 30+ too many?  Is 2 too few?  I don't think I know anyone who has had less than 20 :)

What is your magic number?  And do you regret it or embrace it?

Tuesday, 11 September 2012

Andrew Marr....

Tut tut Andrew, at it again!  Proving my point though, once a cheat - always a cheat, or every man will take the opportunity if it's presented to him at the right time.

Anyway, we were discussing this on the Mike Parr show on Radio Tees yesterday morning.  And also debating the question - 'Is sorry every enough?'

Andrew Marr's wife is incredibly upset with him, understandably, but will his 'Sorry I was drunk' comment cure all?  They have a forced separation for a week or two due to his work commitments, will that help or hinder the crisis?  Who knows.  But all men in the public eye should really sort themselves out and stop being so bloody indiscreet!

Men! :)

Here's the link to my interview with Mike, and the lovely Rosie Freeman-Jones was on before me too.

On from about 34 mins into the show.  Rosie starts about 20 mins in.

Enjoy  xx

Tuesday, 7 August 2012

This Morning....

I had the pleasure of debating the subject of cheating with Emiliana Silvestre on This Morning, with the lovely Eammon and Ruth.  Emiliana has written a book - 101 Ways to keep a man and claims that even a serial cheat or player can be converted if he's in the perfect relationship, with the right woman.  The debate raised the question of 'Once a cheat, always a cheat' following the revelations in the press recently about Grant Bovey and Anthea Turner.

So, do you believe a cheat will always cheat?  Or can he/she be changed into the epitome of monogamy with the right person?  Emiliana says the woman should make the effort to prevent him from straying, and in some respects I agree with her.  I've always advocated wives should try harder and their husbands would (possibly) not cheat if they are happier - however, the thought of constantly trying would be exhausting.  Should a woman really spend her life 'preventing' an affair rather than trusting her man?  As far as I'm concerned, and from experience and research, I genuinely believe men, given the right opportunity, will always cheat.

Anyway, you can check out the show on This Morning Cheating Debate.  We are on from 45 mins.  Enjoy.

Wednesday, 25 July 2012

Female First....

The Diary of a Mistress is going really well on the Female First website.  It is also on the Malextra site, so guys can read the female perspective on infidelity - and how we think after dates, good and bad.  I'm enjoying writing for them, however, my blog is suffering, but don't worry, there will be more appearing here soon :)  Watch this space...

You can catch my latest Female First part here:

I can't quite believe it is up to Part 8 already :)  

Yay!!! :) 

Hope you're enjoying reading it xx


To whoever left the anonymous comment regarding a photograph, how am I supposed to respond if you are doing it under the cover of anonymity?  My email address is available on this site.  I suggest you contact me directly to discuss the matter further.  Wouldn't that be the most sensible approach?  I will leave the choice up to you!

Thank you.

Wednesday, 11 July 2012

Mike Parr....

Yet again, the Jools Oliver subject rumbles on.  I was on the Mike Parr show this morning, on BBC Tees.  This is the link if you want to listen in.  The whole interview starts at 45mins.  A very interesting piece, with Rosie from IE, a woman whose husband cheated, me and then the lovely Denise Robertson - always fun!!  It goes on till about 1hr 20.  Well worth a listen.

Tuesday, 10 July 2012

Jools Oliver...

Jools Oliver has hit the press today because she has freely admitted to checking husband Jamie's phone, email and Twitter account to make sure he's not cheating.  Fair play to her, she was open about it, and he clearly knows she does it, but is it a huge invasion of privacy, or something anyone in a serious relationship should be happy to allow?

BBC Three Counties radio were doing a piece about it on their Drive show with Roberto Perrone this evening.  They wanted the opinion of a Serial Mistress, so here I am.  I'd love to hear your opinions on the matter too :)

Available for the next 7 days

And I'm on from 2hr 20 mins

Sunday, 8 July 2012

20 things you never knew about orgasms...

Some interesting facts about orgasms:-
  1. Ever wondered what your partners' orgasm feels like? Researchers have found that men's and women's descriptions of hitting bliss are in fact very similar.
  2. The average guy takes between two and 10 minutes to hit nirvana, whereas women take over 20 minutes.
  3. But on the other hand, a man's orgasm tends to be shorter than a woman's, which will last between three and 15 seconds.
  4. The word 'orgasm' comes from the Greek orgasmos, 'to swell as with moisture, be excited or eager'.
  5. Women lucky enough to experience female ejaculation usually expel less than 1 teaspoon of pale, sweet tasting fluid when they climax.
  6. No matter what his shape and size down below, the likelihood of hitting the jackpot in bed doesn't change.
  7. Usually, a woman's orgasm produces ripples of pleasure towards her stomach, which is thought to help draw sperm towards her eggs. But during her period, the contractions travel in the opposite direction.
  8. The older we get, the shorter our orgasm will last, which is a great excuse to get cracking now.
  9. It might not always seem that way, but a man's bits get super-sensitive after he hits his bliss point, just like women's do.
  10. Ever wondered why we can't help pulling faces when we reach the big O? It's because the parts of our brain that control pain and orgasms overlap...
  11. .... but the plus side to looking like we've just stubbed our toe is that we're half as sensitive to pain when preoccupied.
  12. It's possible to climax while we sleep, but if we wake up feeling horny it doesn't mean we've been practising an unusual form of sleep-walking - night-time pleasure is created in the brain, rather than by physical stimulation.
  13. An orgasm burns just two or three calories (that equals one measly M & M). The good news is we burn around 50 getting there - enough for a whole handful.
  14. It's official: orgasms are good for our health. Benefits include boosting our longevity and immune system, and cutting the risk of heart disease and cancer.
  15. Although its rare, some men have found their orgasm so overwhelming, they've died on the job. And it's more likely if they're in the act of cheating on their partner.
  16. One in three men aged 18 - 59 suffers from premature ejaculation. And that makes for a lot of frustrated women.
  17. The G in G-spot is short for Grafenberg, the researcher who first wrote about it in 1950. Other spots to look out for include the A-spot (located on the vaginal wall, just past the G-spot) and the U-spot (either side of the urethra).
  18. Women might be great at faking it, but when the Big O is real, there are usually some tell-tale signs - the heart rate and breathing increase, the pupils dilate, the vaginal muscles spasm and the skin flushes.
  19. Although a man's orgasm feels very similar to a woman's, ours come in waves of pleasure, whereas men feel theirs as a single, blissful peak.
  20. The more times a man gets his rocks off in a lifetime, the lower his chances are of getting prostate cancer. So what are we waiting for?